I’m feeling completely demoralised with setting up MEN HEAL.

When I went to see Mind Monmouthshire, the person at the top said they didn’t agree with the idea of support groups.

I set up a group at another centre previously where confidentiality was continually breached by staff. Half the people who attended the group wanted everything for nothing. They thought 50p per hour was too costly even though that didn’t cover the cost of the room. The staff of the centre were very negative about the group. They didn’t help market the group and when I did they moaned why I didn’t market the other classes that run there whch have nothing to do with me. Also lots of gossip about staff and clients including with a local police officer.

I’m out of pocket setting this all up. It feels like a waste of time.

People complain about loss of community but aren’t willing to give anything to their community. People complain of loss of services but aren’t willing to pay a small price to cover expenses of volunteers involved. People in the UK have a very bad attitude from what I have seen.

Other so called voluntary or charity organisations aren’t keen on new ventures like this because we might steal their funding. Welcome to capitalist greed… even in the charity and volunteer sectors.

Feeling so demoralised.


10 thoughts on “Demoralised

  • October 9, 2014 at 4:03 am

    Don’t lose hope – what you are doing is noble, needed and powerful. Peace and success to you . . .

    • October 9, 2014 at 4:13 am

      Thanks for your kind words. I feel really down about this whole project. The message I am receiving is that people don’t want the services I am trying to provide. I need to be brave enough to change direction. Painful. However pain is just a message to invoke change. I need to take a step back to recuperate. I can then think about what changes to make. Thanks again.

  • October 9, 2014 at 3:54 pm

    Don’t give up! Please, go ahead!
    You do a big thing.
    Yes, it is hard, but who said that it should be easy?!

    • October 10, 2014 at 12:02 am

      Thanks for your kind words. I feel really disheartened at the moment. However I have also come to realise that the old model of mental health support is over. Psychiatrists are not the experts. Doctors are not the experts. Counsellors are not the experts. No. It is us, the people who have lived with mental health issues that are the experts. The change needs to happen where there are grassroot groups set up, run by and for people with mental health issues. The experts of old have failed us. The so called charities have failed us. We are succeeding where they failed. They are frightened and they try to shut down grassroot groups. Eric Berne once said that therapy is a racket to make money! The experts have treated us like fools for so long pretending that they have the answers when they do not. The credit crisis is drying them out and hopefully a paradigm change is killing them off. We need to take over where they failed. We should leas this battle. They will fight us because billions of dollars are at stake. They will undermine us and criticise us. Their day as fraudulent professionals claiming wisdom is over. Carl Rogers was one of the few psychologists who broke that mold, but even person – centred therapy is too closed as an ideology. There is no one ideology or method that leads to recovery. All of our journeys is unique. The old school experts are dinosaurs and hopefully they’ll be extinct soon. Here’s to the future!

      • October 10, 2014 at 6:20 pm

        People, like you, break the walls and the stereotypes.
        People, like you, write the history of mankind.
        People, like you, change the world.
        I know that you can. I believe in you.
        And you must believe too.

        • October 10, 2014 at 7:03 pm

          Wow thanks Unbolt! I feel a lot better since receiving a message like yours. I think we are all making a huge difference together. I am proud to be part of the worldwide team making this difference.

          • October 10, 2014 at 7:07 pm

            I’m proud to stand near you… You can lean on my shoulder always!

          • October 11, 2014 at 5:54 pm

            So kind of you. I’m always here for you too 🙂 Hope you’re having a nice day.

          • October 11, 2014 at 6:01 pm

            Yes, I’m enjoying my Saturday, thank you!
            Please, have a wonderful weekend! 🙂

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