Different people deal with managing stress or other feelings by writing down their thoughts and feelings. I myself keep a personal journal about what I feel and have done through each day. It’s nothing fancy, and I’ll write something whether I’ve had a busy day or a quiet one.
The main reason for this is that I find writing relaxing. It’s very similar to speaking with someone in the sense of expressing your thoughts. The obvious difference in writing is that the pages won’t respond with words! No advice is given back but you can keep it as a reflection that will remain written down unless you dispose it. It is a personal action and can be very healthy for you no matter how small your problem or issue is.
If I have felt in low mood or been anxious, jotting things down has made me feel a lot better. It makes my head feel lighter as if some irritating anchor has been removed. Last night I felt really anxious in a club in Cardiff. It was hot and rammed with people, all of which were having a blast. I found myself looking around all the time as if everyone was watching me. I found it very difficult to let go and dance. After all this is what the social setting is about right? Well I practiced mindfulness at the time and asked myself to look at the situation and evaluate what I felt. Again I felt really conscious of how I looked which I knew at the time was daft. I didn’t break out of it however, but my friends and I eventually left and as soon as we did I felt better as if nothing had happened. It’s a strange thing to happen to yourself.
Now as I write this, I feel piece of mind knowing I can express myself through the power of my words which don’t lie. I hope others who read this can relate and take something positive away. I believe we learn more about ourselves through self-reflective entries. We realise how we managed an event in our lives and what we took away. In my case, I realise I felt very uncomfortable in the club. It’s still a tough battle in these instances. I think I have a long way to go to conquer these illogical thoughts and fears. However I will continue to put myself back in similar situations like this because it is the only way I will see real progress being made.
If I didn’t write about this I wouldn’t have been as aware. Sometimes you need to take a step back and really think about your situation. That way it will get unravelled and become much simpler to dissect the obstacles.
Here’s to moving forward folks…
Message from Mike: Check out The Spotlight Effect. A cognitive bias where we feel we feel others are paying us lots of attention, when they probably aren’t. I myself have fallen for this many times. It’s a very normal occurrence.
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