Self-Critic

Ah this topic once again… I have been told I’m my own worst critic for a long time, and it’s true. The difference now is I know more about this in order to combat it but at times today I am too hard on myself.

I’m currently waiting for my new DBS (criminal record check) to arrive so I can start my new job as a housing support worker, but it’s taking so long to come through I’m getting so bored and stressed out. I’ve felt irritable and generally in a low mood today thinking about it. I know I shouldn’t because in the end I did well to get the job in the first place. I remind myself of this fact because it is the main thing. I have a job to go to but in the meantime it is frustrating waiting. This is a prime example of me being too harsh on myself because professionally I’m not where I want to be, but then again how many people are at 23?

Another thing I’m guilty of is comparing myself to others which again is a negative move. I do this when I think of myself waiting to start this job. I think about my friends and their jobs and think they’re doing much better than me.  I resigned from my last job after being there just over a month because it was an incredibly tough job emotionally. I was a support worker in a mental/learning disabilities hospital. I hated it and couldn’t stick it for long. At the time I beat myself up over leaving but I know it was the right thing to do. This was in January so the last four months have been long and slow, so it wasn’t the best start to the year. However I also know it’s not the end of the world like I treated it at the time.

Being hard on myself is a difficult habit to break. For me personally, starting my new job will make me feel a lot better, like a weight being lifted off my shoulders. Having too much time on my hands is doing my head in!
One of my best friend’s Dads once said to me, “don’t worry about things so much, you’re young and haven’t said good morning to the world yet.” I always remember this and I think it’s an excellent piece of advice.

I expect too much of myself and I tend to want things to happen perfectly which I know is unrealistic and quite frankly impossible.

Robert Jones

Copyright MEN HEAL 2015

5 thoughts on “Self-Critic

  • May 28, 2015 at 8:57 pm
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    Mike This is a good article. We are all our worst critics. I know you are more than capable of doing this job well. Call me if things get tough. I’m here for you mate. Neil

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    • May 28, 2015 at 9:58 pm
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      Thanks Neil. This article is by one of our new guest writers. All our guest writers have written great articles. An honour to have them onboard 🙂

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  • June 1, 2015 at 10:36 am
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    Who is anyone to say to us that we are our own worst critic?

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    • June 1, 2015 at 10:51 am
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      I think the point was more that depression makes us think things that are very critical about ourselves. Like ‘That was useless’ or ‘I’m always doing that’. When in fact we wouldn’t say those things to a friend. Indeed we wouldn’t say these things to anyone. Making us sometimes own worst critic.

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  • June 1, 2015 at 10:45 am
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    Being hard on oneself is a difficult and long process to break Rob and even then you may never break it but the positive thing is that you can get better and better at this. When you get older you’ll soon find that time goes faster and that things you are waiting for can come and go quicker than at your age. The time after an important event goes quicker than the time leading up to it. I have too much time on my hands at the moment whilst waiting for some personal things to be sorted and doing things to pass the time on top is making me mentally exhausted. I’ve ended up neglecting household chores but motivation to rectify this is too draining.

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